Mug's Station

Sunday, May 20, 2007

滄海遺珠

This is such a good song! Though the prime time may have passed, I still have the belief that I will be discovered!

大眾也喜歡珠光寶氣 沒有空完全明白你的美
只得我望見你 關起了心扉 猶如合上貝殼的傳奇
若世間疏忽從未細味 讓那些蠢人庸人嫌棄你
切莫讓人影響了你 信仰你的真理

如滄海深處埋藏著遺珠  其實你好處個個也不知 
唯獨我先可以 明白上帝構思 於沙礫裡找到璀璨珍珠 
人家冤枉你平凡悶孩子  但是你心思我不信 
無聊沒意思 沒有人識得欣賞 但天知 誰可以

大概這種非一般的美 慧眼太少旁人未賞識你
因此你極客氣 差點算謙卑 從來沒對愛有所預期
若世間疏忽從未細味 讓那些蠢人庸人忘記你
要是別人都不愛你 有我這邊等你

如滄海深處埋藏著遺珠  其實你好處個個也不知 
唯獨我先可以 明白上帝構思 於沙礫裡找到璀璨珍珠 
人家冤枉你平凡悶孩子  但是你心思我不信 
無聊沒意思 沒有人識得欣賞 但天知 誰可以

你是誰你是誰 可有地方發亮
旁人忙著誇獎色相
沒有空管你的修養 惟獨我留下拍掌

如滄海深處埋藏著遺珠 其實你好處個個也不知
唯獨我先可以 明白上帝構思 於沙礫裡找到璀璨珍珠
人家冤枉你平凡悶孩子 但是你心思我不信 
無聊沒意思 就算誰都不欣賞 但偏偏 我可以

Just do it?!

Do you still recall the slogan "Just do it"?

It's been a long time since it was used. However, I guess this is always a good reminder, especially for a person like me who like to analyze so much before taking action.

For a few weeks in a row, I have been asking myself on a Sunday: What am I doing here? Am I spending my time right? Why are you doing all these? Shouldn't you be somewhere else doing something else?

Finally, I sat down, and wrote down all the major questions I have tonight after shower, which are no new stuff: How should my life be? Where should I stay for good? Should I buy a house?

These questions are triggered whenever I saw someone else has achieved a milestone in their life, such as graduation, getting married, etc. Today, I have 3 friends graduating. While I'm happy for them getting their hard work recognized, I started to count back in time. When did they start their study? What have I done during these years? It's always a scary feeling to see everyone else advancing while I'm still not moving. It's true that each one of us has our own path and there's no absolute right / wrong path one should go through. Still...

As time goes, I'm even more confused about this. Have I been moving in the right path? Have I been spending my time right for what I have been doing.

A friend told me: if you are happy for what you are doing, you are doing it right. Another friend told me: why are you thinking so much? Just do it! Take action!

I need wisdom. I need guidance.

Thursday, May 03, 2007

Family / Career

There are too many good talks at work recently!

Today, the author of book "Faminine Mistake: Are we Giving up too much?" came to talk about her book. The choice between family versus career has always been a heated debate, and a lot of my friends face that challenge too. Although I'm far from making that decision, I have thought about it from time to time.

I'm not planning to talk about the viewpoints in the book here. However, I did reflect on my upbringing and how I see the pros and cons.

Both my parents worked ever since I was born, and I was raised by my grandparents when I was small. I was so attached to my grandma when I was in kindergarten that I would cry when she needed to leave me.

After my brother and sister were born, my grandparents' health deteriated. As the eldest child at home, I automatically took up the role of taking care of my siblings, even though I was not even 12 back then. I still recalled heating up dishes myself before school, and I had to bring my brother and sister to school. I had to take up some housework too, such as blooming and wiping the floor. However, I did not recall a single bit of resentment or anger about this. Instead, I was proud of myself and felt that I achieved a lot at my age. Because of all these trainings, it helped me to become a more independent person, and be able to take care of others.

If you ask me if I can choose, do I want my mom to be a full time housewife, I would say that I enjoyed how I was brought up and I don't think they need to change anything. If not for the chances for me to take care of myself and others, I will be a lot inferior as compared to what I'm now (though becoming somehow inferior may not be a bad idea from another perspective). It helped to build up my courage and independence.

At the same time, I think my mom enjoyed her work too. She has made so many friends throughout her career. If she has to stay at home, I can't imagine how she would be now.

I guess by now, my stance is pretty obvious. There could always be the other side of the story, such as a child goes astray due to lack of supervision by his/her parents. However, I guess the key is not whether a woman works / stays at home. The key is how the family is and how the family communicates. I strongly believe that if parents do pass on the right value and act as a role model for the child, and show the love and care for the child, I don't see how the child can go very wrong.

Blessed to all families in the world, since they are very important units in the world!